Cary Heffner lived most of his life in Colorado. He was born in Denver and went to schools in Green Mountain, where he loved learning. At the age of 11 Cary saved and saved to go on a trip to Hawaii with 'Grams the Great', his grandmother and 'best Read more...
Cary Heffner lived most of his life in Colorado. He was born in Denver and went to schools in Green Mountain, where he loved learning. At the age of 11 Cary saved and saved to go on a trip to Hawaii with 'Grams the Great', his grandmother and 'best bud'. When Cary was 12, the family moved to New Mexico for one year. During that year, Cary tutored a German boy.
After high school, Cary joined the army, to serve his country and to further his education. Interestingly, he was stationed in Germany, where he guarded the Berlin wall before it was torn down.
Following his time in the service, Cary earned a degree in Computer Science, then, using his talent and expertise, he ran a computer business. Later he was hired in the IT department of Lockheed Martin.
In 1987, Cary met Sandy, and told his friends immediately that he was going to marry her, which he did! Cary and Sandy have two daughters, Nichole, and Caley. Cary was a wonderful husband and father!
Cary was seriously injured in 1997 when a car veered on to a sidewalk and struck him. As a result of this accident, he bravely lived a life of chronic pain. Despite the incredible physical challenges he faced, he was a loving husband and Dad, amazing son, much-loved family member, and true friend.
Cary's continually upbeat attitude was an inspiration to everyone he met. He loved to make people happy, and will always be warmly remembered and deeply missed.
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March 8th 2013
A private memorial service for Cary will be Monday, March 11.
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Cary, my love. You are my everything. I miss you very much and often find myself looking over to see you smiling at me, but your chair is empty. I will always treasure the time that we shared together. Even when we were mad at each other we still could laugh and hug. I remember the first time I got on your bike and started to take our first ride together and as we were going around a corner I turned to wave at Dee Dee who was behind us and almost knocked us both off the bike. Did you get upset? Probably, but you did not let me see it. You just pulled over and said please do not do that Sandy it is not safe and I don't want to see you hurt. Then you adopted my daughter Nichole a.k.a. Chole (a Cary nickname) because you said well she needs a dad and as long as I am with you let me be her dad. So I did and it turns out it was a great idea as you managed to always be there for her and me. Our other great accomplishment in life was our daughter Caley or as you called her Frag because she was a fragment of us. The second she was born I saw the beautiful brown eyes that she got from you that seemed to look deep into your soul. We went on road trips and hung out with friends, which was inevitable because we could never go anywhere where you did not know someone. People flocked to you. Without even knowing you they would walk up to you and tell you their whole life story. How many neighbors did you get to come over to our house all the time? I think most of them. You were always reminding me that no matter where a person came from or how rich or poor someone was did not matter as they were just people trying to make the best of things and you felt it was your destiny to make others happy. You succeeded. Your friendly kind nature made everyone think they were your best friend. You treated me like a queen while all the while reminding me your favorite motto. "Beggar's on foot and princess and queens who ride, in skull and bone land saunter side by side." No matter someones past when we die, suddenly we are all the same so why not be a beautiful person now while we are alive and celebrate others. I did not always agree with you on this and I am not sure I still do because I do not feel like you are like others who have passed. You are one of a kind Mr. Heffner and I will cherish every precious memory I have had with you. I will always love you. Ohenia. (forever) Love Sandy
Heffner Family ,
May 17, 2013
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Cary's true passion in life was riding motorcycles. One time when a group of us were coming back from Red River, the weather was bad, rain, sleet, snow, you name it. We were towing the bikes. Nobody wanted to ride. Nobody except Cary that is. He rode as if in perfect weather with a smile on his face you couldn't have wiped off. Total contentment and freedom. Every rider in the family can relate. Love Dad
Randy Taylor Baria ,
April 27, 2013
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My beautiful son. Cary was truly a good person. He was happy, kindhearted, caring, and compassionate. He was always doing for others. Even strangers were drawn to him. He made new acquaintances and friends everywhere he went. His family was everything to him. He was very intelligent. Time and again I found myself in awe of his knowledge on so may different subjects. At the age of 12 when we lived in New Mexico, he tutored a neighbor of ours, a young german boy of about the age of seven and did a great job. In the last year or two we spent a lot of time together and I was so proud of him, who he was, and loved every moment I had with him. We took Broccoli and Mello for walks which was great for all four of us. We went shopping which was fun for me and he pretended he was having a good time, when in reality just the word "mall" made him want to run in the other direction. However he did get even when it was his turn to pick a movie. We called them 'Cary movies' and boy were they bad. He was totally enthralled and we were counting the minutes for it to be over. We were so comfortable with each other and really, really loved our time together. We could and did talk about any and everything. Cary was not only my beautiful son, he was also my very, very best and closest friend. I will treasure the time we had together for the rest of my life. I miss and love him with my whole being. Love Mom
Randy Taylor Baria ,
April 27, 2013
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happy easter brother
Moses Wilkinson ,
March 31, 2013
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Sandy,Nichole, and Caley, We love you guy's and know that Chains is watching over you with gram's at his side. Wish we could have been there to hug you guy's. Just know we love you all and will see you soon. You all did an awesome job of honoring him and his memory. I can see him laughing and smiling on use all. Love you, Aunt Deb And Uncle Jim the godfather
Debra Wilkinson ,
March 25, 2013
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My dear cousin Cary, Your spirit is with me every day. I can hear your voice and the memories I have of us together laughing loving and living I will always hold dear. Making cookies with Grams to send to you in Germany, driving the golf cart from the buck snort after a long night of dancing. Your infectious laugh. I love you and can't believe your gone from this earth. Love you Angie
Angela Cefaratti ,
March 14, 2013
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Chains, you will forever be our favorite road trip buddy. Nothin but awesome memories of ridin,laughin,drinkin,eatin, and not much sleepin. This world will not be the same without you in it to make us laugh. Love you nephew. Aunt Deb and Uncle Jim. Ride free buddy.
Debra Wilkinson ,
March 13, 2013
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Daddy I will always be your brown eyed girl and I will get your bike fixed and you will always be there riding with me, I know you are gone in body but will always be with me in spirit. I know you are having fun up in heaven, with all of our loved ones =). I will be strong for you, and be there for nichole, mom, and nanna. I will not be sad but instead remember the good times. love you daddy love fragelrock. (42)(27)
Caley Heffner ,
March 11, 2013
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He was always there to help other people. Loved bikes, computers and Sandy; not necessarily in that order. Always knew the fun presents for birthdays and christmas.
Dale
Dale Kaiser ,
March 10, 2013
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This world is messed up, RIP to a true friend. I love you Uncle Cary. You made a great impact on my life and you truly will never be forgotten Bryson
Dale Kaiser ,
March 10, 2013
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This site has been created to share what Cary means to us. Thank you so much for adding your tribute.
Heffner Family ,
March 08, 2013
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May 17, 2013 19:25 pm
Heffner Family has updated the Biography for Cary Heffner
